
Caught in the Middle: The Real Costs of Being in the Sandwich Generation
September’s here, and while back-to-school is in full swing, many Canadian families are facing another reality: the “Sandwich Generation.” That’s when you're supporting kids and aging parents, often simultaneously, putting real pressure on your budget, time, and energy.
Here’s what being sandwiched really means, and how to navigate the squeeze without sacrificing your future.
What Does “Sandwich Generation” Mean?
This isn’t just a catchy phrase; it’s a growing reality. It refers to middle-aged adults who care for both their young children and their aging parents at the same time. The trend has skyrocketed as people are having kids later, and parents are living longer.
More than 40% of millennials identify as caregivers for both generations, leading many to cut back on work hours, adjust schedules, and juggle caregiving with competing financial goals.
Financial Pressures Take a Big Bite
Reports show that 70% of Canadians in this situation are deeply worried about the combined financial burden.
Here’s how it often plays out:
- Rising expenses: On one side, you have childcare costs, day camps, extracurriculars, school fees. On the other, medical bills, home modifications, or personal support workers for your parents who wish to age in place.
- Reduced income: Many caregivers cut back on work hours or even step away from their careers temporarily. That means less take-home pay—and sometimes stalled promotions or earnings growth.
- Future savings on hold: Retirement savings can fall further down the list when you're focusing on immediate needs, putting your longer-term financial health at risk.
It’s Not Just Dollars, It’s Emotional Too
This isn’t just about money. It’s emotionally draining. Many caregivers experience guilt, stress, and chronic fatigue. One personal story highlight how migraines and exhaustion become the norm when you’re splitting attention between teenagers and elderly parents.
Despite the strain, these roles aren’t only challenging, they’re deeply meaningful. Families find joy in those shared moments, even if exhaustion remains present.
Smart Steps for Sandwiched Caregivers
There’s no one-size-fits-all solution, but thoughtful planning can make a significant difference:
- Clarify finances, yours and theirs
Start with your own financial snapshot—expenses, savings, retirement plans. Then have open conversations with parents about their income, savings, and wishes. - Tap into supports
Benefits like the Canada Child Benefit (CCB), Old Age Security (OAS), or EI caregiver leave may help lighten the load.
Community support—support groups, nonprofits, even family—can offer emotional backup. - Set boundaries, and plan ahead
Sketch a roadmap: How long can reduced work hours continue? Is part-time or return to full-time feasible soon? And make sure wills, power of attorney, and long-term care plans are in place. - Keep your priorities alive
Even small steps—like continuing to invest in RRSPs or building an emergency fund—can preserve your financial engine. Experts call this “financial triage”: prioritize goals based on urgency and long-term impact.
Final Word: You’re Not Alone
If you’re in the squeeze of caregiving for both ends, it’s exhausting. but also, profoundly human. And the good news? You don’t have to face it solo.Start with open communication, reach out for help, and map a plan that protects everyone. starting with you. Because caring for others begins with caring for yourself.